So many thoughts today, especially after finishing Lean In by @sherylsandberg
Being in my current state/phase in my career and life, things are getting to the point where I have to choose between going all out for my career or family - and it is IMPOSSIBLE to choose BOTH for the next 4 months.
It’s not something I can fight but is something I feel I need to accept. Why do women have to be the ones that sacrifice our careers for our families when we have kids? Why do we get frowned upon if we decide not to have kids but to focus on our careers instead? Why are we seen as less valuable both in the house and at work when we try to balance both? And also, why do men not get judges the same way??? But the more I think about it, the more I realise this is something I need to accept if I want things to change. Women ARE genetically and anatomically different from men, and as such we HAVE to be the ones that form that front line of family upbringing - getting pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding. Men CANNOT do these, no matter how much they may want to contribute in a family or to society, so that us women can also partake equally in professional work.
And because the few months surrounding the birth of a child are critical to its survival, these months WILL be disruptive to the mother no matter what. Our societies at large need to be aware that this cannot be changed, and then, only can real change to bring about equality can come into play.
More women in power need to step up and encourage other women to take up more leadership roles. Conversation about workplace equality needs to happen. Men need to also do their part to make this world a better place for their daughters and sons.
By helping women rise, our men also rise. Everybody benefits.
Also, I’ve been sick since Saturday and feeling super salty about everything. 😅 The power trip at home today DID NOT HELP when I was trying to get some work done 🤬, and now we have no air conditioning till at least tomorrow night (in Singapore’s weather, this is equivalent to torture). Can I get a break from being preggers? I need this baby to be out and be a real human bean right about now. 😂