An Inspiring Journey Towards Motherhood | Clozette
Motherhood is not a journey that one embarks on lightly. Unlike all the other turns we may take in life, motherhood is a path that goes beyond self-fulfilment -- it's about looking at your own life and knowing that you are willing to be responsible for the life of another.

It's a journey that begins with that one touch at birth that gives life to years of encouragement, fulfilment, love, and an intense bond between mother and child. A journey that passes through generations.




So this Mother's Day, we caught up with mother, entrepreneur, and Instagram star Bella Koh and got her chatting about the career change that shifted her life's path towards motherhood and the lessons she has learned so far as she rediscovers life with her 7-month old daughter, Alessandra.


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We learned that you quit your job, took up yoga, and changed career paths. What drove you to pursue a drastic career change? 

My mind was telling me my body wasn't well. I had wonderful bosses whom I learnt so much from; but the hours and amount of work were very demanding. I was travelling non-stop and managing stressful deadlines from design development to production. The work took a toll on me physically and mentally. So I decided to call it quits and took a step back in life.


Somehow, yoga and a vegan diet found me. I became drawn to the world of food knowledge and factory farming. I became more conscious of what I ate and did. I became so addicted to yoga I was practicing 2-3 hot classes a day. In a strange way, my body felt compelled to do something that felt good. I'm still practicing yoga until today at Pure Yoga. It's been almost 7 years and I definitely feel that my body age remained the same as it was 7 years ago. 



Growing up, did you always envision yourself to eventually head towards the path of motherhood? 


Honestly, I was the kind of person who never really saw myself as a mother. Being quite an imaginative person, I could visualise everything except this maternal part of myself. I was also at a stage when everything was perfect in my life. I was free to do whatever I wanted at my own time except for tending to a few felines. I hated commitment then, which also explained why we took forever to get married! I was pretty much in denial all the way through my pregnancy until after two weeks when Alessandra was born.

Did you have initial expectations on how being a mother would be like? Did reality meet those expectations?

It's like you try to see the future with a baby but there was no vision. And I meant none, basically blank. I also didn't enjoy being pregnant as I felt like I couldn't do much as I was carrying a bump everywhere I went. Pretty frustrating. I still remember the time when we were at the hospital and everyone was cooing to the baby while me and the husband looked on. Almost stunned by this strange little thing that is now part of our lives. We just didn't know how to express ourselves at the point. It was only a month after Alessandra was born when reality started kicking in. And that unexpected moment when your baby starts to smile back at you...the world evolved almost magically.
Were there things you wish you knew before becoming a mother?

That 9 months of pregnancy will feel more difficult than looking after your child. That contractions are the worst pain you'll ever encounter in your life. That you'll have 15,000 photographs of your baby on your phone. 

A lot of people say that motherhood is a blessing, so what do you love most about being a mother? 

If anyone told me that before I had a baby, I'll probably roll my eyes and give that person the "you are lying please" type of look. But the first blessing truly comes from the moment your child looks you in the eye with so much innocence and gradually unleashing the most beautiful smile on her face. The second blessing makes you understand how wonderful your parents are and how tough it was for them to bring you up from a tiny helpless baby to an adult.

Motherhood demonstrates the greatness of all beings. After that the blessings become endless. You experience love every other day and you become a kinder, more tolerant person.  Because to sacrifice is to love. 


But everything, including motherhood, has its ups and downs...so what are some of the difficulties that you face as a new mom and how have you worked through them?

That there are a dozen items a child requires once she is born. I read extensively but I found out the best way to make this work is to: trust yourself and simplify your baby's stuff in order to simplify yours.

I only bought the same style of onesies for her daily wear so I never have to think about what she has to wear. I also made it a point to keep her wardrobe to a minimal and muted colour palette. We also made our lives easier by following the French way of putting your baby to sleep early and wean off night feeds as early as possible.


What are some of the things your mother has taught you that you would like to pass on to your child?

My mother taught me many things. She was a very artistic person. I always remember her helping me with arts and crafts in primary school which I usually scored As for! Thanks to her, I cultivated a deep love towards art and design which became my career.

She also had a very kind heart for animals. I think all of us siblings got that from her. We would weep together watching documentaries of preys and predators on TV. I vividly remember this one time when we went on a trip to Thailand and a friend of my Daddy brought us to an elephant safari where tourists rode on them. Our entire family broke down into tears and sobbed throughout that session. We refused to ride on any of them when we saw how cruel they were being treated.

Most importantly, when I grew older and became a teenager, she would always preach to me about self-love. I guess that was her way of educating us at that point when we were turning rebellious and nagging ceased to work.


For all the new moms or soon-to-be moms out there, can you share some tips about motherhood?

I made a bold decision to bring up my child on my own without any help after a bad experience with my live-in helper. Taking a lot of chances here as a first time mum; but seeing how my mother brought the three of us up by herself, I felt challenged to do the same. 

Motherhood can be a breeze if you don't start worrying so early about what would be the best for them... like schools, education and a whole list of things that won't be happening anytime soon. Live in the moment and allow plenty of playtime with your child. It's all they need. Be involved as much as you can. Share your values, principles, and simply observe what they do and what their interests may be. There are only a few short years of them as an infant to a toddler. These years will be precious and very much cherished. 

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Clozette Style Party at Suntec City, North Atrium was nothing short of amazing with its chic lineup of fashion shows and gorgeous guests. But the segment that still has us beauty addicts buzzing are the 2 beauty demos taught by none other than YouTube star Morgan from The Beauty Breakdown, with fellow YouTuber Sunny Dahye and Singaporean influencer Francesca Tan as her models.



During the demonstrations, popular K-beauty looks “Blushing Doll” and “Polished Look” were created using renowned K-beauty brand LANEIGE’s Spring/Summer 2016 collection. The beauty segment gave the audience a quick tutorial on how to easily recreate the runway looks at home.

So whether you want to rock a classic look or a more ethereal one, keep scrolling below for the tips we picked up on how to create these 2 looks from the ultimate social party of the year!

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Blend, blend, blend with Blushing Doll



We all know that to achieve a healthy pink glow, we have to use blush (or in this case, lipstick); and Blushing Doll is full of that! 

To recreate this, simply fill in your brows first. Make sure to use light strokes and to not emphasise the arch of your brow as this whole look is about 'softness'. Next, take the LANEIGE Two Tone Lip Bar and gently apply it on your cheekbones and brow bones, joining the two together. Don’t forget to blend, blend, blend! To soften the look further, blend the colour with a few pats of the LANEIGE BB Cushion until you achieve that softly blurred effect. Lastly, use the Lip Bar on your lips to achieve that sweet finish!

Glow with the Polished Look



The Polished look is all about giving your complexion a brightening and glowing effect. To achieve this, opt for a dewy base such as the LANEIGE BB Cushion for that luminous sheen! 

Second, groom your brows upwards and fill them in using hair-like strokes. After, make your peepers brighter and more defined using the LANEIGE Two Tone Shadow Bar. Next, to make your lashes look thicker, tight-line your eyes with a brown or black pencil and finish it off with a few coats of mascara for natural-looking lashes. To complete the look, take a neutral lippie with a hit of shine for a kissable and chic pout!

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Which makeup look are excited to try out? Share your answers with us in the comment section below!

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The key to long, thick, beautiful, and healthy lashes and brows is a sound makeup regimen. But natural factors such as age, habits, and other health conditions could lead to the thinning of our brows and the falling of our lashes.

Thankfully, LashEM, a luxury range of lash and brow products that has recently launched in the Philippines, is all about makeup that lengthens lashes and thickens brows.

The formulations of all their products are composed of expert hair technology and a mixture of nature-derived products that aim to fortify the growth and beauty of hairs in the lashes and brows: Sympeptide lengthens, thickens and strengthens the hair, plant-derived ingredients block off free radical damage on hairs, natural flower distillate makes the lashes appear more lush, and LashEM’s patented technology, QuSome, seals ingredients together so the skin’s nutrient absorption is improved, causing optimal results. In just 4- 6 weeks, see your lashes reach new heights and your brows get thicker than ever.

Read on to find out more about their products that'll make all your lash and brow dreams come true!

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All Eyes on You Eyelash and Brow Enhancing Serum



The star product that lengthens lashes and thickens brows, this serum contains amino acids to condition hair strands for a thicker and fuller finish (Php3,599.75/3mL).
Double Trouble Volumizing and Lengthening Mascara



Lengthen and volumize your lashes with this anti-smudge and water-resistant formula. Infused with the lash serum and plant-derived waxes, this mascara is sure to give your lashes a glossy shine (Php1,029.75/4.2mL).


Colour Strokes Liquid Eyeliner With Lash Enhancing Serum



Defines eyes with its pigmented formula, its moisture complex moisturizes hair and is infused with the lash serum for bigger and bolder lashes (P1,029.75/10mL).


Extensions in a Bottle Fiber Lash Extensions Mascara



This mascara magnifies your lashes and mimics the effect of lash extensions. Infused with the lash serum, peptides, Lash Extension Base Coat and Extreme Nylon Lash Fibers, this long-lasting, anti-smudge mascara results to long, volumized, and well- shaped lashes (Php1,539.75/6mL).


Colour Strokes Brow Tint and Lift



Get those eyebrows on fleek with this brow tint that fills in sparse brows and sculpts brow hair. Infused with the lash serum to condition and nourish hair strands, this is formulated to be long- lasting and anti-smudge (Php1,029.75/8mL).


3 in 1 Eye Bright Lifts + Firms + Brightens



Get the full effect of lush lashes and on point brows with healthy and bright-looking eyes. Say goodbye to dark circles, puffiness, redness, and fine lines with this triple action eye cream (Php2,059.75/15mL).


Picture Perfect Instant Wrinkle Reducer



Contains Camellia Japonica Seed Extract (Tsubaki) and Hyaluronic Acid to hydrate, smooth, and fill in nasolabial folds and marionette lines, this is formulated to promote collagen formation and skin radiance that lifts, firms, and tightens the under eye area (Php2,059.75/15mL). 

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LashEM is exclusively sold at the SM Beauty Store in SM Makati, Philippines. 
Visit their Instagram for more details. 
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