Christmas Special: My Gift Of Love - Patience

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This Christmas, we’ve invited 3 lovely female guest influencers to share what their Christmas experience was like with their other half, and the best gift they’ve ever received from him – a gift that can never be bought.


Gwendolyn & Marcus

Christmas is certainly a joyous season for many, but for some others, it is something more – It is a spiritual occasion that they regard highly and strongly relate to. As a Roman Catholic, Christmas has always been an important day for Gwendolyn Ashley Toh, a day that she never fails to spend celebrating midnight mass in church with her family and friends. Last year, it was slightly different for Gwendolyn, but in a meaningful and memorable way. Her significant other, Marcus Goh, joined her family for Christmas both in church and at home.
Although the two sweethearts had only dated for about half a year at that point of time, it was a delightful surprise for Gwendolyn to see Marcus already clicking so well with her family members. There was even one time when Marcus took the initiative to help plan a birthday celebration for Gwendolyn’s Dad, as the air-stewardess herself was too busy juggling work and school!

The couple first met in school and often hung out and studied together, with the rest of their ‘Study-Kakis’. Hitting it off naturally, the two grew closer to each other and love took its course over time. As the both of them lead hectic lifestyles, dates may not be as easy to come by. On weekends when either one of them has to spend time with their own family, the other will try to join in, making the best out of every opportunity to be around each other. On other rare occasions where the lovebirds have some alone time, they would go for a game of bowling or a round of karaoke - just the two of them.
What is Christmas to you? 
It's the season of giving, and a time that reminds me of how much my loved ones mean to me. 

Do you guys have the habit of exchanging gifts? 
Yes we do!

Something interesting - if you are given a budget of $10, what would you get for your partner? 
Honestly... I think I would get him 2 McSpicy meals? (laughs) Marcus loves it and it's funny how much joy a simple burger can bring to him! If I have to give him something that isn't food related, I'd probably treat him to a few rounds of bowling as it’s one of his favourite pastimes.
Is it okay if your partner doesn’t give you a gift? 
I feel that gifting ignites a relationship and creates memorable moments between each other. That way, the relationship won't be so stagnant and we are less likely to take each other for granted. It also shows if we know what each other wants or needs in a way, and how much we actually pay attention to our loved ones. It doesn't have to be something expensive - a simple handmade card takes a lot of effort too. To me, it's the thought that counts!

Of course, at the same time, the lovely flight attendant feels that the best gift from her other half does not necessarily come in a material form.

If you have to choose only one trait of your partner as the best intangible gift you’ve received from him, what would you choose? 

Why that trait? 
I have never met anyone who has that much patience!
Share one event that tells you so! 
As an individual, I can be quite temperamental, but of course I don't get angry for nothing. There’s always a reason behind every situation that made me frustrated, although I had to admit that the reasons could be a little silly sometimes. However, no matter how silly those reasons were, Marcus never failed to reason things out to me calmly and find ways to appease me patiently - even during times when I stood by my stubborn stand. I feel that the way he handles our arguments and disagreements is really mature for his age (we are both 23). He makes me want to become a better person.

In exchange, what is the one intangible gift you can give to him for the rest of your life?  
Unconditional love. I never thought I could love anyone else the same way I love my family. But, ever since Marcus came into my life, he changed my perception and I realised the strength of my love for him. I guess when a love like this comes knocking at my door, everything else just falls into place beautifully :)

“If kisses were snowflakes, I’d send you a blizzard.”

Gwendolyn Ashley Toh is an air-stewardess based in Singapore, who enjoys sharing about her life, travel experiences and fashion looks on her Instagram account, @omfgwen. Flying with Singapore Airlines as a cabin crew since 3 years back, Gwendolyn is also taking up a part-time degree with honours in Business Management at the University of Manchester (SIM).

Having learnt the piano since little, Gwendolyn was a freelance piano teacher before she started her career with Singapore Airlines. To her, being able to teach and share her passion with younger children was a rewarding and enjoyable experience. Gwendolyn sees her boyfriend, Marcus Goh, as both her soulmate and her mentor in life. Marcus is currently working in the sales industry.


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