Dear Young Me: Ri Ranjo On Letting His True Colours Shine | Clozette


In celebration of LGBT Pride Month, we're sharing open letters from members of the community to their younger selves as a way to share the struggles and triumphs of living their colourful lives. This week, we have Romney "Ri" Ranjo, who had to conceal his true identity as a young boy but is now proud to let his true colours shine. Read about his long, sometimes painful, but ultimately fulfilling journey towards self-acceptance and the pieces of advice he would have given his younger self below. 


Bro,


I get it. I get how confused and afraid you are. I understand how it does seem like everything right now is blurry and scary, but I also know that something truly amazing awaits. Trust me, in the middle of the tunnel there's a clear mirror where you can see the true vision of who you are: a contented gay man. That’s right, 18 years from now you’ll finally be fully proud of who you partially are (there's more to you than being gay). You’re gay and that’s okay!


Ri Ranjo

Young Ri


Right now, you're a timid (but not timid enough to belt a Mariah Carey song or dance to a Britney Spears number, that is) and sheltered baby boy, but there will come a time when you'll be a wildly and proudly open type of gay guy.

At this time, you hate the term gay or bakla, just because of how negatively people would use them. These are used to label 'weak' boys. When they say the word gay, their eyes would express deep disgust and be filled with anger as though you were an unholy entity. 

One time, a flamboyant nude photo of yours got leaked within the school community. Someone printed them and stuck them in the bathrooms. You broke down. But the thing was, you didn’t break down because you were embarrassed by your physique. If anything, you were proud of your body. But you broke down because you are still ashamed to be called gay. You thought to yourself that if you were straight, the reaction would have been different you would have gotten praise instead of ridicule. How can life be so unfair, right?

You refuse to let your rainbow shine because you don't want to disappoint your parents or become the school's next laughing stock. Your dad's brother, who's a priest at your school, doesn't make the pressure to conform to the norm any less. But the truth is people have always known who you truly are. Everyone knew except, well, maybe you because you haven't fully admitted it to yourself yet. You're afraid that if you do and say those two words I'm gay — that there's no turning back. As they say, once you go gay you can never go back.


Adoscelent life as a closeted gay man won't be easy for you. But time is on your side and as the days pass by, you would come to realise how great it is to be just who you are and that the only reason why others are trying to mould you into something you're not is that they’re also afraid. Forget the haters. Haters never want you to be happy — but why give them the satisfaction?


Right now, I feel the luckiest 'cause the most important people in my life, including myself and my family, have accepted me. And I know not a lot of gay men my age have that. 


Ri Ranjo

Ri with his family


I'm happy because finally, I can be me. I can shout to the world how freaking gay I am and be proud of who I love. Yes, believe it or not, there will come a time when you can go out and hold your boyfriend’s hand and it would feel just... right. No shame, just love.


Ri Ranjo

Ri with his boyfriend


Young Ri, there is nothing wrong with being who you are. You're given only a limited time on Earth, so give that to the real you not the person you're impersonating. You’re scared and nervous, but embrace it 'cause that’s normal and reveal your true self anyway. It's true that nothing worth having comes easy. If I could turn back time, I probably wouldn’t change anything. You and I went through a lot of abuse and pain, but I’d definitely tell you that the journey is worth it, even if it's just to find peace and happiness in being who you truly are.


Yours truly,

Grown-up Ri



Ri Ranjo is now a full-time social media specialist, freelance nudist, and lifestyle content creator. He bravely expresses himself and documents his adventures on his social profiles. Know more about Ri and his adventures on his Instagram.

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There's a reason why maxi dresses remain to be a favourite item during the summer. Not only are they among the few pieces that are light and breezy but still give coverage (great for no-shave days!), but they're also very versatile and can be styled in countless ways. Keep scrolling for fresh ideas from the Clozette Community on how to style maxi dresses and skirts this summer.


As a pinafore


Maxi Dress Outfit

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Choose an asymmetrical hem


Maxi Dress Outfit

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Why do some people look fantastic in peach while others appear pale and washed-out? It all boils down to our skin's undertone. We often consider undertones when shopping for makeup but it's frequently overlooked in our fashion choices. Did you know that it's the reason why some shades complement our complexion better than others?



If you're not sure what your dominant undertone is, one of the easiest ways to find out is by doing the paper test where you hold a piece of white paper under your face. If your face appears golden, then you have a warm undertone, and if it looks pinkish, it's a sign that you most likely have a cool undertone. Another way to identify your specific undertone is via a colour identifier app. Once you've already figured it out, keep reading to learn which the best colours to wear according to your skin's undertone are.


For those with yellow undertone: golden yellow, orange and green


Yellow Outfit Inspiration

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Ladies with yellow undertone will look great in golden yellow, orange and green. Wearing these shades will bring out the radiance in your complexion. On the flip side, you should avoid strong yellows, like canary yellow, because they will wash you out. Those shades that are between violet and blue are also not the best colours for you because they will clash with your skintone. But if you really love these shades, you can still incorporate them into your ensembles through accessories like a belt. You can take style cues from celebrities with yellow undertones such as Gemma Chan and Lee Sung Kyung.


For those with pink undertone: black, deep pinks, violet and blue


Streetstyle Inspiration

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Deep and creamy colours are a great match for your pink undertone. Classic black, the darker hues of pink like magenta or fuschia, violet, and blue are the best shades for you. Meanwhile, you should stay away from peach, beige and light yellow because these won't blend well with your complexion or even cause a camouflage effect that will make you appear nude from afar. Elle Fanning and Song Hye Kyo are a couple of celebrities with a pink undertone that you can reference for your future outfits.


For those with olive undertone: red, deep orange and basil green


Orange Jumpsuit

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Those with olive undertone can play around with pops of neon and earth-toned colours. However, the most recommended shades for your skintone are red, deep orange and basil green. The richness of these colours will bring out the glow in your complexion. Some popular personalities with the same undertone are Priyanka Chopra and Sofia Vergara.


For those with blue undertone: green, violet and red


Red Dress

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Gals with blue undertones will benefit from wearing rich, deep tones like red, emerald green and violet. These colours will make your complexion stand out and look more radiant than it already is. In contrast, super bright colours like neon orange and yellow would look awkward and may make your skin appear sallow, so it's best to steer away from these shades. For inspiration, you can check out what colours blue-undertoned celebrities like Anne Hathaway, Dita Von Teese or Anna Kendrick wear on the red carpet. 


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