Look into the wonders, mysteries and intricacies of love as we showcase a special three-part series made with Malaysian illustrator Beatrice Oh titled, Love: A Series.
Part Three: How To Manifest Love
Dress yourself with a smile
Bake it, baste it, roast it
Practise what you preach
Show love and compassion not just to yourself but also towards everyone around you, even to those who you think don’t deserve it. When blinded by disappointment and anger, let compassion take the wheel. Root yourself in humility and resign to the fact that you don’t have a full understanding of what someone else is going through. What you can only do to move things forward is to practise empathy and offer help. Break out of your own bubble and reach out. You’ll find that there are many who will appreciate your kindness.
The light you radiate when you spread love and positivity is unlike any other. You don’t need to spend a lot to achieve it. Even something as simple as offering a genuine compliment will make someone’s day. Create an environment that makes people feel like they belong and are appreciated.
However, spreading positivity should not be about pretending that everything is fine all the time. It’s not helpful to shrug off your and others’ anxiety and sadness. Listen, empathise, and offer help where you can. It’s possible to be both sad and hopeful at the same time.
Pen down desirable traits you see in others and become that person. Imagine what a loving friend would be. Maybe you hope they would be someone who would send you a message to check in on you or that it would be somebody you can count on to be there in your darkest moments. Take the next step and pick up the phone and message that long-lost friend you’ve been yearning to have a conversation with. Show up when you say you will. This also applies to your other relationships: as a partner, as a child, as a parent, as a fellow human being.
Clear up mental blocks
Break down negative barriers and focus on showing respect for yourself and others. We may all come in different sizes, colours and backgrounds but we’re all equally worthy of respect. Lose the clique mentally and don’t pass up on the chance to get to know others outside your circle. Manifesting love for the world as a whole should start by confronting your prejudices and breaking them down. Simply be more open to other perspectives.
Once you are, it has a domino effect that will eventually make you realise and care that your actions can have an effect on someone — whether it’s the underpaid seamstress who has sewn your clothes or the underage girl who mines the powder for your eyeshadow.
How do you show your love best?
Here’s how you can find love.