It's Okay If You Don't Have Life Figured Out Yet | Clozette

Living in a world where numbers always seem to matter can be tough. Maybe because even back when we were young, we were trained to think in numbers -- grades, friends, etc. And as we grow older, the numbers demanded of us get higher too. But sometimes, we can't commit. We can't meet "standards." And the sad thing is that, no matter how hard we tried, we still fall a few places near what's considered mediocre.

But don't worry! If you're feeling this way as of the moment, you are not alone. Here are some of the things I constantly remind myself that you might find useful, because to be honest, I'm on the same page as you!


It's okay to feel that way

Being in our twenties or thirties is that time in our lives when we contemplate on whether or not we're doing things right.

Seeing people like Kendall and Kylie Jenner, Emma Watson, Taylor Swift and all these other women who are either just a little bit older or younger than we are living their lives to the fullest even before they hit puberty will really make you think about what you're doing with your life.

The fact that some people are just handed things on a silver platter in contrast to someone like you who needs to work hard for everything makes it seem like life is unfair. That's why it's totally normal to think like that, but...
There's an entire lifetime ahead of you

J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter books, was fresh out of a divorce, struggling to pay rent for her and her child, and was rejected by tons of publishers before reaching her peak as a novelist; she was 31 then. Vera Wang was passed over for Vogue's editor-in-chief position but she took it upon herself to follow her love for fashion design and look at her now; she was 40 at the time.

Society used numbers to define them but they took a different turn. There's still a long way ahead of you so it's never too late for anyone. Which leads us to... 


Never lose sight of your passions

When I was young, I read a metaphor somewhere which says "when you force an artist to throw away their paintbrush to become a doctor, the artist dies inside." And I used to agree to the idea. But as the years passed, it occurred to me that a true artist will never let go of their brush no matter what the circumstances are. 

Whatever career path you're headed to, whether you're in it because you want to or because you have to, it doesn't mean that you have to give up your passions completely. A doctor can still paint, an engineer can still write music, a ballet dancer can love math -- the only person who can stop you from doing what you love is yourself because...

Life is a matter of choices and not of chances

It's inevitable to feel like we don't have a choice sometimes. But sticking by that idea is a choice in itself. Life is full of decisions to be made and everything in our lives is a series of effects that we have chosen for ourselves. That's why...


Keep moving forward

Failures are a part of life. You may not feel like everything is going as planned right now, but even if it's hard, take it as an opportunity to look at things in perspective and get to know yourself even better. Learn from the past and just take in every single step you take as a challenge you have to face to reach your dreams. 

It's okay if you haven't figured things out yet, because I haven't either. That doesn't mean we'll stop trying, right?


What are your thoughts on the matter? We'd love to hear all about it in the comments below.


The Swatch Art Peace Hotel on the Bund in Shanghai is a luxury hotel which houses artists who are invited to stay within a period of 3 to 6 months to meet and exchange ideas, plan new projects, and share their creative visions.

One of the artists in the hotel, Singaporean artist Yi Lin Juliana Ong, who stayed there in 2014 and is more popularly known as “Juls”, has recently designed a special watch for world-famous brand Swatch where it was recently launched at their store in Marina Bay Sands.

The new accessory, titled “Juls At Swatch Art Peace Hotel,” features a design that is the first of its kind – it illustrates her experiences as she lived and worked as an artist-in-residence at the hotel. Drawn in red and blue against a white ground, the characters on the watch are part of a colourful, lively community that emerged from drawing exercises during her residency. She says, “It's all about the process, the adventures and those strange characters”.

With the Swatch store in Marina Bay Sands being transformed into an art exhibition space to reflect her atelier at the Swatch Art Peace Hotel, it celebrated a unique collaboration between Juls and Swatch, further marking the local arts scene as a space to watch for future inspiring works from aspiring and established artists alike.


The Juls At Swatch Art Peace Hotel watch retails for SGD103 and is available at all Swatch stores in Singapore.

Plus, the JULS Exhibit /Atelier will be at Swatch at Marina Bay Sands #B2-105 from 9 to 30 June 2016.

Providing an affordable option for runway-ready looks, the women behind THAVIA set out to create a fashion label that is accessible, affordable, and catered to the tastes of self-driven and independent women. Established in 2015 by Tengku Chanela Jamidah and Angie Lai-Tay, THAVIA's collections give the everyday women access to pieces with the flair of high couture but are easy to wear day-to-day.

When asked about the progression of the label's designs, the ladies said "The previous collection was inspired by the highly feminine Parisian trend featuring ladylike silhouettes such as fit and flare dresses and tops, full tulle skirts, as well A-scape style blouses. This was followed by a collection inspired by high-street style that comprises of a range of street fashion catered to empowered women seeking trendy and chic styles."

With the label set to showcase their latest collection at Kuala Lumpur Ready To Wear Fashion Week this August 2016, we caught up with the two ladies behind THAVIA and got them chatting about what it was like to set-up THAVIA, their design aesthetic, and what we can expect at their upcoming runway show in Malaysia.


Describe your fashion journey. What made you both embark on launching THAVIA? 

We are both fashionable ladies busy with our businesses and children, and we found it hard to find easy but runway worthy items that can take us from meetings to school. THAVIA was born from that lack of runway-to-everyday pieces that wont break the bank. From day one, it was very important to us to keep prices at an affordable point for customers to be able to update their closet frequently. 

Your label aims to dress women you both identify with, particularly self-driven women. How did that design/style direction come about? 

We love to dress women we identify with - self driven women who juggle multiple roles at home and at work, while not forgetting to treat herself with love and respect. Work life and daily family life are seamless for the current working lady. In today’s digital social media constant push, we are always inspired by style icons, business women, and beautiful lifestyle images to improve our own lives.
On that note, how would you define an independent and self-driven woman?

Someone who knows her strength and weaknesses. And strives for their goals despite challenges that arrive along the way. Someone who earns her own income and does not need encouragement from anybody but herself. Someone who is courageous and brave about everything she does in life. 

What has been the best part about launching THAVIA, and what has been the most challenging? In what ways do you think THAVIA have grown since your launch last year?

The best part is hearing from our customers that they can't wait for our new stuff to be released and personal messages from friends to pre-order what they see on our Instagram. It's definitely encouraging to know that your friends keep on supporting you, not once but every time something new lands. It shows that we are doing something right with our designs, quality, and price point.

What has been the most challenging? You could say everything! But really it's production as we are very particular about the end result, how it finishes, how it falls, and the fit.

What should people expect from your runway show at KLFW. Is there a certain design philosophy or look you'll be conveying on the runway? 

Feminine strength. Every piece can be somehow incorporated into your current wardrobe, staples that you will be able to wear daily, and a strong sense of empowerment and movement. 

What can we expect from THAVIA in the coming months/years. Where do you see your brand headed?

We will be growing our point of sales for easy access regardless of which city you live in. Our idea is to create different looks for our point of sales to suit our customer’s needs. We also don’t see ourselves as mass producers, we like to keep our designs wide but the quantity kept small with a constant drop in stores.