For our Work-In-Progress Issue, we talked to women in various stages in life to share their stories of continuously growing, learning, and becoming stronger while gaining more wisdom and grit in this journey we call 'life'.
They say that life truly begins at 30 and that the previous 29 years were just mere training. In a way, it does make sense. We spend our teenage years transitioning into adulthood and leaving our innocent childhood years behind. Then in our 20s, we try to navigate the 'real' world. But by the time we start our third decade on Earth, we're already more or less in tune with who we are, how the world works and our place in it.
For the next instalment of this series, we have Rae of Rae Tries Things to give us a peek at what life is really like in your mid-30s. Read on as she shares the lessons she has learned in life so far and how she found self-acceptance and inner peace.
How different were you 10 years ago?
I was in my mid-twenties a decade ago. I was about to leave my second job and I just broke up with my boyfriend of four years. I remember feeling lost, anxious, and unsure of everything. I didn't know what to do with my life and career. Now, I am generally more at peace with myself and no longer as anxious with life's uncertainties. I also met the love of my life and I’m happily married.
What would you want to change about your past?
If I could turn back time, I would be much kinder to myself. I am scatterbrained, easily distracted, and unorganised. I used to spend so much time ruminating about why my brain works the way it does and wishing I weren’t me. I forced myself to do things the way an innately organised person would. But after learning to love and accept myself, I was able to draw solutions that work for me.
If there's one thing you can tell your younger self, what would it be?
I would tell myself this: "You can't change the things that happened to you and the mistakes you've made. Focus on the present and what you can control."