Always keep in mind that trends are simply suggestions and they shouldn't take over your identity. Having the attitude to pull off whatever it is that you're wearing comes from the knowledge that you are comfortable with your look. Plus, don't just brush off the effort you put into your outfit-- keep in mind that it takes a lot of heart, too!
I have to admit that the word "fashion" used to scare me a lot. The image of the movie Mean Girls often flashed in my mind to the point that I even attempted to be "trendy". But the mere idea of spending a day in stilettos or wearing off-shoulder tops made me feel like I'm losing a part of myself. Not that there's anything wrong with that. But as I've said, it's not for everyone.
I totally understand why not following trends can be a terrifying thing. The fear to be ridiculed can really hit our self-confidence hard! One of the reasons why I overcame this "Mean Girls" image in my head is when I saw how the Clozette community appreciates the style, uniqueness, and creativity of each member. Not only have I found Clozetters who share my taste in fashion, but it has also become an avenue to broaden my personal style.